Tips to deal with confrontation

Thu, May 13, 2010

Self Improvement

One of the hardest things many people may grapple with on a daily basis is the fear of confrontation. Whether it’s the fear of confrontation from a loved one, a spouse, or a relative; the fear is the same, in how it manifests itself, and therefore-how to respond to it. Below, we offer the healthiest and most effective ways in which to deal with confrontation-in all situations-in your life.

1. Concentrate on Your Breath: One of the best things that a person who is overwhelmed by the fear of confrontation can do is to concentrate on their breath, and slow it down so that the inhalations and exhalations are measured, deep, and slow. By doing so, you relax your racing mind, your quickened pulse, and heightened sense of anxiety. In this new state, you are much more able to cope for an intense confrontational situation, should it present itself.

2. Prepare Your Words: For anyone who struggles with any fear of confrontation, preparation is the very best way to concentrate and deal with the stressful situation in a manner that is positive and proactive. In the case of any impending conversation or speech in which you feel confronted, preparing a plan for what you will say will not only dissuade you from paralyzing fear; but also, give you a focus for the subject of your confrontational talk, when presented with that agonizing moment(s). Consider what the situation is concerned with, and rehearse key points to cover and explain.

3. Use Logic: It is wise-alongside preparation and breathing technique-to make yourself consider in a thorough way, just what is being presented in this confrontational situation, and that it is-most probably-not as bad as you are gearing up for it to be. Nine times out of ten, people fear the imagined confrontation of a conversation as being a million times worse than the actual response. Consider the response to the situation with a realistic view to help you calm down.

4. Recognize Triggers: Everyone has different emotional triggers when it comes to the fear of confrontation. What makes you feel confronted? Take some time prior to the situation to consider this more carefully, so you know what situations to avoid, and also, what is a realistic response to a confrontation and just what you are fearful of. This will put your fear in perspective.

5. Announce Your Feeling of Confrontation: Another means of handling your fears of confrontational situations is to tell the person at the time of the event that they make you feel confronted. It is quite possible that they will evaluate this, and try to discuss whatever you are discussing in a more comfortable approach-as perhaps, they were not aware of how it affected you.

Good luck and be sure to share any additional tips :)

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