Self Help Wellness

Dealing with hostile people can be a bit challenging, and while it may be easier to just walk away, in some cases you will have to deal with these kinds of people. Most of us try at all cost to avoid confrontations as well as obnoxious people. We all come in contact with these types of people at some point in our lives and this article will explain a few ways to cope with this type of behavior.

 

 

 

Identifying Hostile People

One way to identify a hostile person is by their behavior. Look for patterns in the way they act. A few things to look for include:

• Using anger consistently to manage their daily routine

• Using unpleasant language

• Making others feel shame

• Making you feel guilty

• Using body language that is unpleasant

• Seem like a bully

• Trying to dominate others

When encountering hostile people, Try using one or all of the three tips outlined below to manage your behavior:

Tip 1: Keep Your Guard Up

Don’t count on what they say and always be on guard. Don’t always trust what the other person says. If someone says they can give you a ride somewhere, always have a backup plan in case something comes up and they are unable to keep their word.

Tip 2: Confrontation

The whole concept of confronting a hostile person sounds uncharacteristic, but could work if you are confident enough and able to mirror back their behavior to them. Sometimes this shocks them into reality. Here you could ask them questions like, “Are you having a bad day”? Remember they are the ones with a problem not you, don’t ask the questions like “what have I done to vex you”? That is, don’t feel they are behaving in an obnoxious manner because you have done something wrong, No! On most occasions they get out of control and project a lot of their anger and hostility on to others around them.

Tip 3: Assertive Communication

When you are trying to let a person know your feelings or how their actions upset you at times, you should always use assertive communication. Don’t be too angry in your tone and try to stay calm. Let them know your thoughts about what they had done to you, say to them that you would appreciate it if this (hostile behavior) does not occur again. This can eliminate future arguments or more hostile behavior.

Things to Keep in Mind

There are a few things to keep in mind when dealing with a hostile person. They can include:

• Try not be forceful

• Keep your attitude optimistic

• Try not to take things personal

• Don’t let any hostile behavior effect you

Conclusively, to solve a conflict with a hostile person, the best thing to do is not act the same as they are. Try not to make the situations harder or more heated. If you cannot come to an agreement or resolve the issue, you should just let it go and move on. Some hostile people are not easily persuaded to give in. You should always try to do your part to resolve the situation before giving up.

 

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