Two of the most admirable and coveted attributes are courage and confidence. Though the two concepts are necessarily different, typically, to have one is to have another. In the following discussion, we examine both, and offer the best tips on acquiring these highly sought after characteristics for a happier and less restricted life.
What is confidence? Confidence is defined as a long term characteristic that enables people to present themselves as worthy is all situations. These people have confidence in their abilities to succeed in every aspect of life. People with confidence often have more friends, higher paying jobs, and less doors closed to them in every way-because they believe they can succeed.
What is courage? Courage is the characteristic that can be short or long term and refers to a person’s ability to approach fearful situations and not back down. Despite fears or danger-considered and/or real-people who have courage move forward to the task at hand to fight their fear and get the job done.
Often, people who are confident are also courageous; as no task is impossible to them. Often, courageous people are also confident in their abilities, as they have courage that they can succeed, and this is founded upon their abilities to succeed despite great fear.
With this is mind, few of us can honestly say that we are wholly confident or courageous; so how do you go from being unable to stave off fear and promote confidence? Here are the best tips:
1. Be Realistic: The first action to take when seeking to be more confident and courageous in your life is to consider exactly what it is that you are facing. What is it that makes you so fearful of a situation, and not confident in your abilities? Is it really based upon anything? Considering the real situation at hand, can easily help a person boost their own self esteem to be more confident in all actions.
2. Find a Mentor: If you are fearful of a certain action or field. Find someone who is good at that thing, and mirror their actions. Truly study their actions, and perhaps, even ask them for tips. This way, you can see how to approach the success of it. Enough practice of this will yield a pattern that is automatic.
3. Consider Yourself Someone Else: It really does work. Just by imagining yourself as a person who is confident, you can in fact be confident. Look at it as an exercise of the stage, and pretend you are that confident person from a movie or that courageous hero from that tale-and think no further beyond that.
4. Stop the Voices: The worst critic is always yourself-if you are someone looking to be more confident and courageous. This said, you are probably keyed in at all times to those negative thoughts in your head telling you that you cannot do certain things, that you are incompetent, and unable to succeed.
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7. May 2010 at 3:50 am
If we were to look at the scale of emotions, or AGFLAP CAP as it is known, Apathy, Greif, Fear Lust Anger Pride /// Courage Acceptance and Peace. We see that courage is the first emotion o nthe positive side. Which means, If we took an action from this place, there is a much higher chance of a positive outcome. if we take an action in say fear, right down the scale. You are much more likely to attract a negative situation. Great post. wonderful reading thanks for posting.
7. May 2010 at 6:59 am
Nice post and great advice. I think that sometimes what holds people back is the idea that they must lose the fear first before they take action. I used to think that courageous people were without fear.
As I grew, I came to understand that sometimes facing fear and doing the action anyway is one way to conquer it.
Thanks again!
7. May 2010 at 10:12 am
Fatima-The more I live, the more I see that courage is everything in life. And that includes the courage to defy one’s own doubts and fears.
8. May 2010 at 7:17 pm
You’ve covered this so well! All I would add is to be open to possibilities – because they are in our face a lot (opportunities) but a lot of people are too comfortable in the status quo to see them. So vision should accompany self-confidence and courage? I believe so.
hugs
suZen
9. May 2010 at 1:53 am
Thanks for sharing these ideas my friend. The tips are awesome. I can see myself lacking those characteristics sometimes, but thankful indeed for my courage. I even used to tell my friends just do your best. Who knows, miracles do happen.
9. May 2010 at 2:59 pm
Fatima: I really liked what you said about the negative talk and how we may fall into the trap of telling ourselves negative things over and over again and that chips away at who we are and our confidence in what we are really capable of accomplishing. I think that this is one of the most important things for us to be on the lookout for because it can lead to us not being able to reach what is really attainable.
11. May 2010 at 7:03 pm
Yes, stop the voices. This seems to be a big stumbling block for a lot of people, including myself.
It’s all about fear.