Self Help Wellness

We all compare ourselves to others every now and then but the extent to which we do so is what generally takes toil on our general well being. Here are a few questions to ask when involved in this exercise of comparing to others. How do you feel? To what benefit is it to you? [...]

Creative mind(s) for self improvement is our ability to come up with ideas or relics that are novel, astonishing and priceless. We all can be creative according to Boden, (2004,p.1). creativity enters into virtually every aspect of life; it’s not a special faculty but an aspect of human intelligence in general. in other words it’s [...]

Stress is an interaction between our body and a situation that generates an incredible amount of strain to our well being. It is a psychological and physical state that manifests itself when our resources to cope with a situation(s) are not sufficient. This post  Dealing with stress aims to simply highlight some causes of stress with [...]

Smart goal setting is our ability to set what, why and how we what things to happen for us. It is an objective or aim of an action and involves establishing specific measurable , time –targeted objectives. Goal setting is a major component of our personal development. The SMART Model an acronym which stands for (specific, [...]

Some of us are better able to deal with sarcastic remarks than others and that mostly depends on our personality, confidence and self esteem. To make sarcastic remarks is simply an ability to pass harsh or witty comments or to  say something often in an ironic manner with the intention to wound or ridicule the other [...]

  As crazy as it may sound I had my friend screaming down the phone “excuse me excuses” I couldn’t make out what she was trying to say, so I asked. And here was her response “I am fed up of making excuses” I thought to myself how interesting it’s typically hard for someone who [...]

 In our last post Traits of Emotional intelligence we asked ourselves questions because Questions focuses our thinking.  By asking empowering questions like what’s good about this? What’s not perfect about it yet? What I am going to do next time? How can I do this and have fun doing it ~Charles Connolly…can certainly be useful [...]

Following an introduction to emotional intelligence here are some traits to looks out for within yourself  Assertiveness; are you able to asset yourself and stand up for your rights? Emotion expression; are you able to communicate your feelings to others effectively without getting into a state? Emotion management; are you able to manage your feelings, [...]

Daniel Goleman is a well known international psychologist author of  “Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ ” a bestseller with over a million copies in print worldwide. He has broadly discussed this topic and argued in his book that human competencies  such as empathy, social awareness, self regulation and management adds value to [...]

We all love to be appreciated but in order for that to happen we owe it to ourselves to appreciate who we are. This works well from my own experience because like attracts like that is; appreciate yourself and people will appreciate you.The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others ~Sonya Friedman. To [...]

Setbacks come in various forms and shapes; It can happen to each one of us at any point in our life. Nations, organisations and even the most prestigious individuals with all the monies in the world are not immuned to setbacks. I suppose facing and dealing with setbacks is just one of the many facts [...]

Do people consider you a complainer? While most of us complain occasionally, regular complaining can interfere with your daily life. Complaining typically involves negative comments that are not designed to be change driven. Feedback has its place in our personal and professional lives, but complaining when not accompanied with options  and solutions is counterproductive. Below [...]

Pomodoro technique has been around since the 80s;invented by a time friendly gentleman known as Francesco Cirillo with the concept of enhancing our mental agility for effective time management. I recently published an article on effective time management and one commentator had suggested the pomodoro technique. I have not particularly tried out this technique but [...]

Dealing with hostile people can be a bit challenging, and while it may be easier to just walk away, in some cases you will have to deal with these kinds of people. Most of us try at all cost to avoid confrontations as well as obnoxious people. We all come in contact with these types [...]

Of late I felt an urgent need to SWOT analyse my current situation; a lot has obviously been happening but then there was that need to sit down and brainstorm before I activate an action plan. If you haven’t heard of  SWOT  Analysis it’s simply an acronym which stands for strength, weakness, opportunities and treats. SWOT analysis [...]

Do you feel blessed? Some people wonder what it means to be blessed. The word blessed can mean a number of things such as blissful, having great happiness, and having comfort or joy. Being blessed is both spiritual and physical. To feel more blessed, take time to understand the meaning and purpose of the word. [...]

Your beliefs about yourself and your world create your expectations. Your expectations determine your attitude. Your attitude determines your behavior and the way you relate to other people. And the way you behave toward and relate to other people determines how they relate to and behave toward you ~ Brian Tracy.      I love to [...]

Self doubt is a limiting factor and should be eliminated from our thoughts in order to achieve the accomplishments we set out for ourselves. Not one person is better than the rest or even perfect than the rest. There are a few different ways to help eliminate the self doubt you may have. There are [...]

How often have you woken up and said “that’s it” ! I am just going to do what I have to do ! Often some of us are stuck in jobs, relationships, businesses or basically in the rut but for some crazy reason we stay there feeling unhappy …god damn why? I mean there comes  a [...]

It is easy to become distracted in our every increasing busy lives. And to make matters more challenging, life seems to throw these obstacles in our way during the most inconvenient times. There are simple distractions that are for the most part easy to ignore, but there are some that can interfere with our schedules, [...]