Self Help Wellness

  As crazy as it may sound I had my friend screaming down the phone “excuse me excuses” I couldn’t make out what she was trying to say, so I asked. And here was her response “I am fed up of making excuses” I thought to myself how interesting it’s typically hard for someone who makes excuses to see that it could be a problem. But once, recognised sky could be the limit .My friend’s excuse has always been well “I am a single mother so I have no time to  look nice “. I thought that will be an acceptable excuse if she was the only single mother on this planet.

We all make excuses which may well be fine, but when it becomes a regular pattern with no purpose then it is a Big Big problem. Generally excuses can = negation because it helps us hide behind our shortcomings.

When we make excuses we declare “the other responsible ” for our problems. For example……

1. I can’t secure a job due to the current economic crisis. The economic crisis is responsible.

2. I can’t start a business because I have no money. Money is responsible.

3. I can’t loss weight because I have no time… time is responsible.

People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives~J. Michael Straczynski.

 

In the examples above the economy, money and time are supposedly responsible for the problems?

True OR False?

The Answer is False?

And here is why- provided emotions are adequately managed excuses can be eliminate and each one of these individuals can take responsibility for their current situation.

Soooo…..

No 1. Discovers that they have a hidden talent and utilizes it.

No 2. Establishes that money is a good factor but can be equally successful with drive and determination.

No 3. Understands the importance of time management and motivation and takes charge to lose weight.

How to Stop Making Excuses

How to eliminate excuse(s) can be pretty straight forward just wake one morning and say “that’s it” I am going to do whatever it takes to make it (whatever it is your desire) work.

But it may not be that straight forward so here are some tips;

1. Awareness; is your ability to perceive the problem. Are you aware of what you say and the excuses you make? Do you make excuses every single day? Is it a problem? Are you happy?

 

2. Explore: once you recognise your excuse(s) find time to explore it or them from the root in an attempt to establish reasons for making them. Are there underline issues you have to address? For instance , do you tell your friends you are   too busy to go out  most of the times? but the fact of the matter  is that you have   recently  been feeling depressed, started to  comfort eat, piled  on some weight and no longer feels comfortable going out with with them. Cue here is to  address the  problem(s) from it’s root/source.

 

3. Visualise: Whist you are addressing the problem, start to visualize where you want to be, how you want your life to be,  this should help speed up the process of change . Visualisation is a very powerful tool  personal in development.

 

4. Pratice: Once you have made up your mind to stop making excuses why not try a day without making those excuses … If you don’t try you mostly like will never know. So practice this every other day until it becomes a habit.

 

Conclusively, to what benefit is it to man to spend their day and energy whining and or making excuses? And perhaps left feeling like crap when we have the option of “taking responsibility and taking action” which will most certainly make us feel better? It’s obviously insane doing the same thing over and over again yet anticipates changes.

Don’t make excuses. Make things happen. Make changes. Then make history

Doug Hall 

 

  Great Book  to add to your reading list : How to be an Existentialist: or How to Get Real, Get a Grip and Stop Making Excuses

Question

1. How do you manage excuses?

 

Photo credited to Chelley

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