WelcomeÂ and Happy Holidays !.. I was with a group of friends over the Christmas break; to be precise Â on Christmas eve rounding up for the day .It was ever so nice being together as Â we spoke about almost everything we could think of . What caughtÂ my attention Â and had prompted me to write this post was a conversation that started around the New Year.
Â One of my friendsâ€™ started talking quite passionately about how happy she is having looked back at all she had accomplished over the last Decade. Initially I did not have a clue of what she was saying. She then said we are not just moving into a new year but a new decade and she could not Â help but look back at all her accomplishments from getting married to completing her training as a doctor. She commended that having this wonderful opportunity of meeting different people was second to none. I was so touched as Â she did say a lot of other things had happened to her yearlong but she saw no value in focusing on them and concluded by saying how grateful she is.
Â On returning home I sat down to reflect on the last decade and of course I had a big smile on my face. We have just about a few days before this year runs out and Â I belief itÂ is a time for us to Â reflect, be grateful and jubiliate for at least just being here; a time to reminisce ; a time to take lessons from the past and move into the future, Â a time to build on our goals, plans ,dreams; a time to make them all work for us !
Â I am not a firm believer of making New Year resolution(s) and research has revealed that most people donâ€™t stick to them anyway! Instead I just build on my daily goals…..
Â Reflect & celebrate
Â 1, Relfection ;Here you simply look back and explore the past years ; Â examining your past events and highlighting all your happy experience(s)Â as well as Â achievements to be happy and grateful for. Write them all down if so wish. You can also note where you want to make changes/improvements as you go along. â€œBy three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterestâ€~ Confucius.
Â 1 a, Write; I have already mentioned writing but remember writing is a very powerful tool forÂ self/personal development, reflection as well as goal setting . â€œWrite down the thoughts of the moment.Â Those that come unsought for are commonly the most valuableâ€Â ~Francis Bacon.Â
Â 2, Be grateful; Here you want to be show gratitude.This is the ability Â Â to show warm appreciation, and kindness for all favour(s) received. People who are grateful have been Â reported to be less depressed,Â more empathic and generous. Some researches have indicated that gratitude can improve our psychological wellbeing. So itâ€™s worth investing time developing the skills of gratefulness. Â Â
Â 2a, Contribute; Be considerate byÂ investing time, money and showing love to those less privileged; itâ€™s a way of just being grateful. Giving is not just at Christmas!
Â 3,Share; I love the popular saying â€œsharing is caringâ€. You simply share your story to motivate others around you. â€œThere is no delight in owning anything unsharedâ€~ Seneca quotes.
Â 4, Visualize:Project into the future; Picture all those wonderful event(s)/experience in your mind and build on them!This should help you leap forward into the future and feel the need to celebrate. â€œVisualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print, and begin to build.”~ Robert Collier
5 Express your gratitude;Â Â Â basically celebrate, sing ,danceÂ Â and Â appreciate all you have to smile for !
Â Now here is the second side to the coin.. Remember my friend did say other things have happened in her life but she had not paid so much attention to them; These obviously were unpleasant experiences. Â We live in a dual world, so weâ€™ve got â€œThe good and Â the badâ€ , â€œThe sweet and the bitterâ€ and many more. Whilst in reflection your goal is to embrace your good experiences!
Â If you are struggling to establish events and experiences to celebrate why not try Self Discovery Your Way to Greatness for someÂ Â tips.
Â Good Luck and Happy New Year!
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